Hi Carson
I am sorry for the pain....for both of you....
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How do I go about rectifying such a terrible error when all the cards are on the table before I even sit down to play?
What is done cannot be undone, Carson......However.....the consequences of this happening.....neither you nor she nor anyone else can foresee. Do not listen to your own talk about this. Commune with your wife...........this is more important than ever now....that your dialogue is open......also....ask her about herself....how she feels. And when she speaks...listen without inner dialogue and commenting.....be
present to her.
In order for this to take place:
First....allow all your pain over this to surface.....it will have to be processed by awareness Carson. Don't talk about the pain.....just allow it through...all the way. This way.....being present becomes bearable after a while. And presence is what will take you through this. Explain to her how the pain she feels can be allowed.........you be that room for her...where she can release it......you can explain the principle of allowing the pain....
However bad this situation looks....now that it is in fact here.....use this possibility and stay very present with her. Don't let her close up.....and lay yourself bare....don't give up trying to explain to her the workings inside you......
Inside a crisis like this.....there is always hidden a potential of expansion and growth for all involved....much like the Chinese word for "crisis" is the same as the word for "chance". Nothing - absolutely nothing - happens by coincidence. I agree with Sparkle....deep down...you who love honesty and openness.....at some level you have wanted the cards on the table. Of course not
this way....not through hurting her......but sometimes life breaks one open......this incident has cut right to the bone.....stay with the nakedness of that......and also know that you
will mend...one way or the other.
If you email me her name I will have both of you in Samyama.
Much love to you and your wife.
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