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@ShantiWow....awesome blog start! You have put to words EXACTLY what my "plan" for raising kids is....you know, the one that "hasn't had a chance to be tested yet"
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I have bounced this idea off of a few people already (for example, my parents) and have recieved nothing but "That won't work....if we had done that with our kids they would be in jail by now" type of answers. Personally, I think if my parents had done that with me, I would have been a LOT less angry my whole life.....they think I would be in jail. Noone really knows though, it's all speculation. I plan on parenting as much along these lines as is possible. IMO Real Love is the purest motivator.
@KatrineThank you for such a wise, loving post. The "Loving" vibe spilling from your posts always warms my heart in a beautiful way.
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Carson, if you keep this up...I mean...if you make this into a full time job.......you are going to be a wreck by the end of her pregnancy
Hahaha....perhaps....but what "seems" to be happening here is an extreme increase in energy along with the "Fatherly Love" thing. I am sleeping (much) less, getting up much earlier to meditate and am going to work early to be home early so that I can cook dinner and such. Up until about 2 or 3 months ago, I never cooked dinner. I really really hate cooking. In the past I have always gone out for food if I have had to cook for myself. Now, I am making different meals every night, and actually
looking forward to cooking! My how quickly things can change! Ever since we found out I have had this extreme change in attitude....not a conscious change, it just has happened. I have gone from caring more about "myself" and my spiritual evolution, to caring only about "the family unit" as a whole. I think that this is really pushing me to the "next level" of "self-less-ness". I have always been "concerned" with trying to help the whole of humanity spiritually evolve, but this developement has brought that down to a more micro level in some way....perhaps that makes me selfish...perhaps that is just a thought. But for whatever reason, I have become a different person....a more "caring for others" type of person....it's not all about "me" now. Even though before I would have said the same thing....it's just that the perspective has shifted a little now. can't really pinpoint how though.
(It's funny too....the shift started to happen before either of us knew we were pregnant....I was cooking dinner for at least 6 or 7 weeks before either of us even suspected....it's interesting how Life "times" things sometimes.....perfectly[
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Oh yeah, about the "running out of energy" thing....(I kinda got carried away above and didn't really say what I had set out to say)...it's funny....it seems that the more energy I expend in trying to be "of service" to my wife and unborn child, the more energy I have....it's almost the same as when I was working at the Drop In Center....I would go to work all day, come home, meditate, go to work at the Drop In Centre (which is a very "draining" place for most) and come home
energized....I'm having basically the same thing happening here now....it's like Life gave me the Drop In Center job as a "warm up" for right now. Again, funny how that works eh
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About "needing to *do* stuff" for her....I definitely see what you are saying, and I hope I didn't come across as seeming like I "need" to be doing anything....I was more just asking if there is something I *should* be doing in order to help her deal with the hormones. I don't like to see anyone (especially not my wife) cry, so when I can't "help" the mind goes wild and thinks it must be doing something "wrong"....I see this for what it is, I just like to cover all my bases[
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@sageYeah, prenatal vitamins are a must for sure....those were one of the first things we bought after the pregnancy test[
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About the actual birthing process.....I don't want to talk about it[B)]
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Hahahaha....we'll cross that bridge when we get there.....All I can say right now is: "Thank God I am not a female!"[
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@MachartThank you for the Congrats.....
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The great thing about having kids (mine are 24 and 20) is they make you feel (and act) like a kid again...
Hopefully my kids don't make me act any more like a child then I already do! Kids raising kids
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@MiguelThanks Brother[
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I've got 3 young ones of my own and they have been an amazing gift...my greatest teachers.
Yes I can hardly wait..... I am already learning from the "bump"
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....It's amazing what and who you can learn from when you are open to everything.
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My advice during the pregnancy is to basically do whatever she asks you to do, no questions asked, no matter how irrational it may seem...but also know that no matter how hard you try you won't be able to "solve" everything for her (hormones, mood swings) but doing what you can, understanding, giving her space when she needs it and most of all lots of LOVE and everything will be great...the whole process from beginning to end is a MIRACLE!!!!
Sounds like great advice, and a very similar approach to what I have been taking so far. I haven't found any "solution" to the crying/bitchiness/outbursts, but I have found that not "contracting" over them seems to allow them to pass quickly. Thank you for the sound advice Parallax.
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And if you think you feel joy now, just wait til you're holding that little soul in your arms!!!
Just thinking about it makes my heart want to split wide open[
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@Anthem11Thank you[
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Duck!
Are you saying to duck the punches or the flying baby?
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Kidding[
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So....I've been desperately reading your post looking for any kind of spelling grammatical error I can point out, and...nothing....jerk[
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hahahaha. I will be more conscientious from now on[
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(Giving) Love is always the answer; only an ego-idea could think otherwise.
Yes of course....the ego just thinks there should be more to do then there is....always making things more complicated then they need to be (or are).
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I'm sure she's supported you through various things -- maybe a time or two??
Hmmmm.....
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1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
That simple eh
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....I think even *I* can do that
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it's also not a "one slip equals problems", either; it's more: lowest possible blood-levels of nicotine are best, zero is ideal.
Yes, I know, and I try to be tolerant to this....to a point. The first week or so she was using the nicorette inhaler, but she isn't using that (to my knowledge) anymore even.....she doesn't seem to be too bad over it....I think the joy of impending parenthood is a strong motivator. It was tough for the first little bit though.
Thank you for all the advice and support Kirtanman....your presence here is truly a blessing for me.
@AkashaThank you for the loving encouragement my friend....
Oh, and thanks for the virtual dinner[
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@ChristianeThank you again for the congratulations.....
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"A cocoon of Loving energy"....
I really like that....This is what I strive to be for her, the baby and humanity as a whole really.
Thank you for your Love and congratulations....may you be cocooned in Love[
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Thank you everyone for all the support and advice...I truly couldn't be luckier.
Love Always,
Carson[^]