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Originally posted by Jack ...read a few parts from the book and manage to man up enough to shift gears.. but there is always this tension in my solar plexus.
Oftentimes, the healthy path can seem almost as painstaking as the blind alley did recently. But if the relationship kept one or both from blooming and growing, it's worthwhile.
(Once, I even asked a sibling to remind me in the future, in case my new relationship would be broken off, that this woman was exactly whom I wanted despite the risk, and that everything was worthwhile. Even on the phone, such a reminder is useful in finding one's way from
being pain to
witnessing pain.)
There is a couple of chapters in the book about following a man's mission too.
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Originally posted by Chiron
Are there any techniques given there? Are you able to give a brief description of the book?
I too am of the opinion that control of male ejaculation is the foundation...
I agree, given commonsense self pacing (I made a post about it last year,
www.aypsite.com/plus-forum/index.php?topic=6068#54950 )
The technique mentioned in the book is not new to you if you've browsed Yoganis Tantra lessons here. Only 7 pages are how-to[
] (Chapter 46, out of 51). The book is more like the second part of its title: A spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire.
Its language and thinking are inspiring. Each chapter has a preamble of 5-10 lines, it's advisable to spend 30-40 minutes browsing all preambles before deciding to read the whole book.
His technique book is called The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover,
www.amazon.com/Enlightened-Sex-Manual-Sexual-Superior/dp/1591795850/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1291227643&sr=1-1Inspiring, and not too different either - just puts more emphasis on "Sex" (compared to AYP's focus on "Enlightened"); the common denominator is techniques acquired one by one but applied in parallell, using breathing and relaxation along with the bandhas and mudras. Like in AYP, body and mind are regarded one "whole" (neither Deida nor Yogani want you to slavishly become just an ejac-control robot), and that's why reading both books in a row made sense to me.
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Originally posted by karl...Fix the inside and the outside fixes itself.
To become the one you need to, to be able to do what you need to, to get what you want. The reverse order usually looks like a shortcut but turns out to be a long roundabout.
My 3 c.