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Originally posted by CarsonZi
Namaste Friends....
Been dying to announce this since my wife and I found out, and can't hold it in any longer[
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.....we are "with child"! Hurray![^]
Congratulations, Brother Carson!!
Awesome News!!
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But with these new developments come new challenges (already). I know many of you have children already, and some of you have even gone through the whole birthing process, and I am hoping that you can load me up on advice[
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"Duck!"
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(I did it three times; I speak from experience .....
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Seriously? No, not seriously ..... that would be terrible
.... *Joyously* .... it's pretty simple:
When in doubt, LOVE.
When not in doubt, LOVE.
The rest is just details.
Really.
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First off....pregnancy hormones. Any suggestions on ways to help my wife (just to clarify, I don't really consider her "mine"[]) deal with the extreme mood fluxuations?
"See above."
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She has a new tendency to straight up BALL over little to nothing. Even she is flabbergasted by it.
Er ... um .............. I'm *guessing* the term you are intending to use it the one usually referring to ... crying?
Usually spelled B-a-w-l?
As opposed to the slang term for "have sex"? (B-a-l-l)
Same advice applies in either case, of course ...... "see above".
(& not poking fun @ your spelling Brother Carson; I may be the only one doing a double-take at seeing the word "Ball" .... but, hey --- thought it {mildly} worth mentioning ......
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But she can't seem to control it either. So far all I can think to do is help her see the irrationality of her thinking (which can be WAY crazy[:p]) and show as much Love as possible....so far it is working to a point...that point being until the next thing comes up that triggers a response[].
I'm still not 100% sure which one you mean ......
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... but sounds like you intuitively get the right response --- and I'm being (joyously) serious, here.
Pregnancy does involve hormonal shifts that males of the guy-like persuasion just can't understand --- and we don't need to.
(Giving) Love is always the answer; only an ego-idea could think otherwise.
I'm sure she's supported you through various things -- maybe a time or two??
Her part of the deal is to care for herself and your (shared) baby.
Your part of the deal is to care for her and your (shared) baby.
("The view from here", etc. etc.)
Very natural allocation of roles, I'd say .....
There's really not much else *to* do; giving Loving by being open and letting Loving inform the moment ("Let go and let God", as the saying goes ..
) will help make for a fundamentally joyous pregnancy, and contribute to the healthiest development of the kula (group, family, clan) that is now expanding in the form of another wonderful body-mind.
Any other way of being with it .... maybe not so much.
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Secondly, I am hoping for some advice in terms of what I can do to help support my wife through the pregnancy. I have asked her, but she doesn't seem to know.
Sometime each gender presumes the other must have some "secret special classes" (on how to be a woman/man, husband/father, wife/mother, etc.) - they don't. We don't. Every woman feels like all the *other* women know what to do (they don't); every guy feels like they're the only guy/father-to-be who's really unsure (they're not) --- it's the nature of the ego-mind to worry about stuff and doubt.
I will now share with you Kirtanman's non-patentable custom-intuited right-now process for Happiness in Every Moment:1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
Hm? No ... there's no "until".
Just Repeat.
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At this point I am just trying to keep her from getting stressed, keep her well-fed and rested, and keep her decently exercised. So far physically she seems to be doing fine other then having to quit smoking (a very old habit for her) cold turkey and she is having some difficulties sleeping (it is uncomfortable for her to lay the way she likes to). Any suggestions would be great.
Yep - smoking's a tough one, but a "gotta do" (if you want a healthy baby) - I was a month early, and a couple pounds light (5.5 lbs @ birth), per my Mom's smoking. I've had two daughters who've had to do that, one of them twice -- and basically: maternal instinct beats even addiction, almost always ... but it's also not a "one slip equals problems", either; it's more: lowest possible blood-levels of nicotine are best, zero is ideal.
The "getting comfortable" thing is very individual; every woman deals with it, and "no one solution fits all" ..... on any given day, even -- especially per changes during pregnancy.
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Third, I know it is a bit early to be preparing for this part, but anyone have any advice on raising kids? I have my own ideas, but none have had the chance to be able to be put to the test. Any advice on what you have noticed works (or doesn't) would be great.
1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
& .. remember ... life knows what it's doing.
Ego/Thought-Me thinks this is "hard" - it isn't. It's actually natural.
That's why enlightenment is called "the natural state" - it's what's here when all the thinking-me's artificiality is dropped - all the doubt, any sense of conflict, etc. etc.
Just let awareness shine; don't let thoughts inform the moment -- let any answer/action, etc. come from silence.
Loving ... and enlightenment both boil down to the same thing ..... releasing attachment to form ... and living unbound in the resulting reality.
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Thank you and may you all feel even just a little bit of the joy I am feeling in becoming a Dad. d=[
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Love,
Carson[^]
Oh, I do -- family -- love -- kula -- connection formed and expanded in actual loving -- is one of the greatest, most beautiful joys of this human experiencing.
And it's all truly so simple:
It's only about the loving.
Only always.
Intending You & Your Family Enlightenment/Loving/Joy - Wholeheartedly,
Kirtanman
