hmm, really, stuff like this comes down to one of the nastiest "ego killing devices" to face (well it's not that bad really... it doesn't change anything, it's the way its always been)... being, the fact that it's a lonely lonely world. Pretend everyone you know, have ever known and will ever know has been, is and will always remain a complete stranger to you. Cuz really... in many ways, that's exactly how it is.
Like... I can picture being some poor kid from africa or something, almost dying of malnutrition... I know what it's like to be hungry, but not at that level. I can only put myself in their shoes to the extent that I know, and the rest is just human programming for "seeing the other in yourself, or yourself in the other". It's easy to make believe, but I reckon if I actually spent time down there, saw this kind of thing firsthand, and lived among these people, then it becomes a bit (emphasis on "a bit") more real. I can love them, do what I can to help but I still have no clue what it's really like to be that starving kid.
No amount of thinking or making up scenarios or any of that ever changes the above. Ever.
What to do after knowing the above; going to the depths of your loneliness and seeing what in fact is there and fully coming to terms with that. It's never too scary (but just enough sometimes) and it helps grow compassion for this whole being human business.
the basic formula = see "it's never enough" in yourself, see how deep that goes and what's really behind that, feel compassion. And then see it in the other, share compassion.
sweet. it's like a guide for enlightenment in 2 lines, haha, i'm so awesome.