gentlep, blessings, love and support to you in your time of need.
What you are feeling is perfectly normal and healthy. Depression is a natural part of the grief cycle. Denial, anger etc. which lead to despair. It is in the very giving up of hope that new concepts of reality can be formed. Not allowing yourself to feel these emotions - short-circuiting the natural process - will delay the healing. Over time, with enough denial, we can create our own personal hell. I speak from experience.
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...it seems to me that your priority is not specifically meditation and amaroli, but what actions to take that will be the most stabilizing and supportive of your very demanding task of caring for sick children, caring for yourself, and maintaining your household and environment."
Wise advice. Your situation is extraordinarily difficult and I suggest you get help from professionals. Antidepressants are one of many options. You may also find relief in sharing your struggles with a therapist, or join a support group. Here is some more information:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/GriefIn my experience antidepressants do not stop me from feeling strong emotions but rather serve as a base from which I can act to improve my physical, mental and spiritual health. Without the medication I would fall below the base and not be able to get out of bed, perform my job, exercise, communicate with friends or, yes, meditate.
A couple of years after I began meditating I had to deal with some issues that left me unable to formally practice. Meditaton became an ordeal. I went back to what has served me from the beginning of my path - bringing my mind off my troubles and being fully present. Over and over again, dozens of times a day, every day. Only now, a year later, am I able to again sit in formal meditation.
Please remember that you're not in this alone. Unconditional love is freely offered by the universe and is yours for the asking. You've made a good start by posting here.
aum namaste,
Joe