awaevo-
since you are specific in stating that sharing is appreciated, I will share.
although in this moment NOW there appears to be no familial tension, I will say that their typically is on a daily basis. I think I have outsmarted the arguments, because instead of adding fuel to the fire- I usually just go somewhere else in the house. I can now see that I would prefer to avoid yelling and vicious verbal attacks, leaving thru my mouth. This is not always easy to do, but I noticed that I am embarassed more that I don't really have developed skills for solving issues, communicating, getting a real solution. I always use my son as an argument buffer, because it is embarassing losing it in front of him and it is not healthy for kids to be around such volitility. or adults for that matter
I like to just say that Obama gave a decent speech to the public in Tuscon, which I liked. I liked that he said "use your words for healing not wounding."
I avoid my dads house to, and I am not going into that in this moment. I will just have to make choices along the way as they show up on hoe to deal with all of it.
the thing is with carson list for me personally is that I feel that I am accepting of other people. It is me that has to hide who I am, because it is not basically acceptable.anything and everything. I can handle that too. no one has to accept me or my thinking.
I don't think these things/this topics have easy solution, but I just try to notice inside me what I am thinking, feeling and how I want to respond, or not.
That is all for now.
enjoy the weekend