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Originally posted by CarsonZi
It's funny....I read these lines in the lessons, and I realize them to be true in my head, but my heart at times still needs to grasp it before I can truely understand (and put to practice)the REAL meaning of what I have just read. I know this last sentence has been said before too, but this too is something I am just learning in my heart but have always known in my head as well. (when it rains it pours!)
Hi CarsonZi,
Glad my reply helped.
What you have written above is what most of us who lean towards addictions face. And with addiction, I don't mean just substance addictions, I mean addiction towards control, possessing things (material and non-material), depression, excessive thinking, excessive worrying, etc. Substance addictions actually are easy to catch, but the mind addictions are well disguised and generally hard to catch. And as you may know, even when the physical dependency on a substance is gone, getting over the mind attachment, the mind addiction is very hard.
Everyone, knowingly or unknowingly, is looking for the silence. Everyone at some point in their life has experienced that silence, that pure being, that pure joy and peace.. be it when they first fell in love, or first saw the face of their new born baby, or experienced the beauty of a sunset, or listened to a beautiful piece of music that touched their soul, or inhaled the first puff of smoke to fill their lungs with nicotine, or got high on a drug, or felt numb and mindless after a few sips of alcohol.
The problem is, the mind does not understand mindlessness... so it attaches to the object that produced that state in us. That is where addictions come in. The mind now tries to reproduce that feeling by trying to re-live that moment, it tries harder and harder to "get" that feeling back using the external sources. When it cannot find it.. it goes looking for it in other external sources. The harder it tries to find "it" externally, the further it gets away from "it".. because it is very hard for the mind to realize that that source is really within.. and you don't have to go anywhere to get it.. but within.
It is the same with meditation and other spiritual practices. You experience the silence.. and the mind thinks.. "hey.. if 20 min meditation made me feel that good.. maybe an hour will be better.".. "Hey, if this practice is doing this much for me.. then adding some more will quickly get me there". That is the biggest mind trap one has to watch out for.
In many cases people do some kind of spiritual practice or listen to a devotional song and get lost in it.. so they make it a ritual and try to recreate the experience.. not realizing, the mind is just looking for another thing to get addicted/attached to. It's like a story I read about a guru who would ask his disciples to tie up his pet cat before they started meditation, so it would not annoy them while they meditated. Years later, after the guru passed away, one day the cat died, and the disciples were in a panic and wondered where they would find another cat to tie up before they start meditation. That is how the mind works.. it makes a ritual of things.. and believes things wont work unless this ritual is followed. This is addiction. This is keeping the mind alive. This is stopping the flow.
That is the reason, most people here will tell you to do your practice like brushing your teeth. Most people are not addicted to brushing their teeth right? You just do it and get on with your life. Similarly, if you just do your practice without expectations (hard to do but not impossible), do it like you brush your teeth (if brushing your teeth for 3 min gets the job done, you wont brush for 20 min and get your gums sore, because you think your teeth are getting cleaner now would you?), and then go out and live your life, you will soon feel the silence you experience during your practice, flow into you every day life. You will realize, that trying to hold on to something just causes more constriction.
When you do your practice, and then let go, don't expect, don't hold on, the silence will flow through you and show up in the most unexpected ways. When your mind decides "this is the only way to experience the silence", you miss out on the hundred different ways the silence blesses your life every moment of the day. The mind needs something concrete to hold on to, to control... but it's only when you trust the silence and let go the control do you experience god/truth/awareness/silence. You are right there on the cusp of getting it. Relax the mind. Don't try to get it with the mind. The mind is limited by the past. Be open to what comes. Do your practice like you would brush your teeth, and trust your silence, your inner guru to show you the way.
And till then, self pace and enjoy.