Hi YIL,
I understand your doubts, fear, questions..
What I can say from my experience, especially my last relationship, is that you must be aware that if you don't "jump" in it with both your feet, it will be lukewarm and centered around the mind and all its rationalizations, which is the biggest enemy of Love.
I remember that when we first met my ex and me, we both shared loud our fear to get attached to eachother.. it was a big risk..
We were both interested in the same things, in spirituality, healthy food and way of life, art, etc.
Everything was looking so perfect! We both couldn't believe that we were so much close.. We used to spend hours (up to 12!) together in a bedroom, just chatting, listening to eachother silence.. we spent many months like that without knowing what boredom was..
So, basically, there was a risk to take! Nothing was guaranteed..
Now, of course, if both of you share the same interest or longing for God and spiritual matters, it could be a very enriching and deep adventure that could help you support eachother and grow together..
This, I was blessed to experience it.. And believe me, there was more bad and hard moments than good ones, but the good moments were soooo intense and deep that I always tried to let go about the bad things...
Sure it's much easier and safe to go through life alone, celibate..
but I think we miss a lot by not giving a chance, at least once, to really engage in a deep intimate relationship.
And you're right, we don't meet by mistake with the other..
That's for sure! I learned so many things..
My ex and I were basically very different from eachother, I mean we had almost opposite personnalities, and it was all the most challenging to deal with those differences..
Now, our story ended in a sad and painful way (at least for me..)
It's not that we decided to leave eachother, nothing was said officially.. it happened gradually.. and I just realized many things that were missing for me to be happy and fullfilled..
That pushed me more towards my inner work. There was hard moments, yes, but today, I'm more mature, thanks to all the ups and downs I went through.
Concerning Osho, don't worry: my mind sometimes rebells against some of his words.. especially concerning relationships and freedom.
But in fact, when I say to my mind to shut up and have a wider vision, deep inside, I know that Osho talks the truth.
It's all about true Love, the one and unique Love that is unconditional and flows from within, undependent of the outside..
To reach this rare Love, it takes a lot of work and surrender.. how?
Through meditation.. this is the only way.. It doesn't mean that we have to wait until then, refusing any opportunity to relate..
But at least, as we progress along the path, we become more and more aware of our true needs, and this way, we avoid falling in the same mistakes and patterns..
At the end, we all do mistakes.. this is how we learn and grow.
So, it's good to ask yourself some questions, to reflect upon your true needs and desires.. but keep in mind that freedom is essential for both of you, as unique individuals..
Whenever this freedom is not fully respected, Love is not unconditional and true..
And Love and Hate are 2 sides of the same coin..
Love is a dialectic, it's not horizontal.. it has peaks and valleys, light and darkness.. this is the beauty of It.
I wish you to always be tuned to your heart; to never compromise for any reason because your freedom is essential to your growth.
As Khalil Gebran says, a couple is like 2 columns supporting the same roof of a temple..
..Love..